A 30-year-old woman had shared her story on Reddit’s “AITA” subreddit. The woman had explained that she was married with her 32-year-old husband for four months, when the situation happened. OP stated that her husband would like to be independent in every aspect of his life. And especially money.
OP said explained, “He’s bad with money, meaning that he never plans for tomorrow and enjoys buying new things everyday.”
As OP said, she talked with her husband about having a joint account, and her husband accepted. But the husband had accepted his wife’s salary as his own too, and doubled his expenses in result. ”It was just like grab money and go spend it. Not okay because we have commitments.” OP shared.
After OP talked with her husband about the issue, she explained that her husband said, as the money is in his account, it is his money, and he shouldn’t be questioned about where he spends it. Then her husband said, “Am I crazy to think that everyone should just be able to have their own money to spend regardless of wether they were married or not?”
Then they decided to use their separated accounts, and pay for their house expenses equally. And one day, he wanted to go out for a dinner, to a restaurant. OP thought that they would pay for their own meals. As they went to the restaurant they booked, her husband had ordered two more meals and desserts from OP. When it was time for paying the bill, her husband was confused when OP wanted to split the bill.
“You’re not gonna pay for my meal too?” OP’s husband said, and OP explained to her husband that it was his decision to pay for everything, “individually.” Then she explained the consequences of separate finances. As her husband was upset, he explained that he doesn’t have money to pay for his side of the bill. As OP paid for her own bill, and was leaving, her husband had threw a tantrum and called her selfish and mean.
Two hours later her husband came home, and told OP that he called one of his friends and he paid for his meal. As her husband was still mad at OP, she sait that he should stop.
OP shared, “After that I took some time to calm down. We had a talk this morning and when I suggested therapy first thing he said, “Okay, But who’s paying?” Then reminded me of what I did and how unacceptable it was. He keeps bringing it up and wants me to apologize.”
Redditors had stated that OP was right with her stance, and her husband has some red flags in his actions, which he should be fix them.
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